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Better Between the Sheets
Sex coaching insights, intimacy tips, and honest conversations about desire.
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
"You've Changed" - Why Women in Midlife Feel Different (and Why That's Normal)
Feeling different in midlife? You're not weird or broken. Here's what menopause, mental load and pleasure shifts are really doing - and why it's okay.
11 Jun 2026
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
Why I'm Building The Courtesan Collective - a Sensual Sisterhood for Tired, Brilliant Women
We're tired. We're done waiting for our pleasure. Why I'm building The Courtesan Collective.
30 Apr 2026
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
Why Your Sex Life Feels Empty (Even If You’re Having Sex)
You’re having sex. Tick. But it feels a bit… meh. If it’s starting to feel like something to get through rather than enjoy, you’re not alone. Here’s why it happens - and how to feel present, connected, and turned on again.
16 Apr 2026
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
Why Unsolicited Dick Pics Aren’t Just Annoying - And What They’re Really Doing to Women
I was sent an unsolicited dick pic at 5:33am. What followed wasn’t just anger, it was a flood of stories from women who’ve quietly shut down. This isn’t about offence. It’s about safety, consent, and why so many women disconnect from pleasure.
2 Apr 2026
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
The Surprising Consent Lesson I Learned at a Sex Party
A surprising moment at a sex party taught me something important about sexual confidence, consent, and boundaries. Because true empowerment isn’t about always getting what you want - it’s about respecting when someone says no.
5 Mar 2026
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
Look up! How your posture can affect improve your confidence
Stuck under grey skies and feeling glum? It might not just be the weather. In this playful, thought-provoking read, I share how posture shapes not only your mood and confidence but also your pleasure.
27 Oct 2025
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
Beyond Pink Ribbons; "I just wanted to fucking live!!"
Within an hour of arriving, a woman said to me, “I just wanted to fucking live.” This is about the power of honesty, the beauty of connection, and the quiet, fierce act of learning to love your body again — scars and all.
13 Oct 2025
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
To teenage boys. And girls. And maybe you, too.
How to talk to teenagers about condoms without the awkwardness: a real letter on sex, confidence, and respect for boys, girls. And maybe you too.
25 Sept 2025
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
A Libido Dry Spell? Here’s How to Reignite Your Desire Naturally
Libido feeling drier than a camel’s playground? Don’t panic. Here’s how a little time apart, solo pleasure, and a few sparkly passions can reignite desire.
8 Apr 2025
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
Reclaim Your Sensuality: How to Channel the Confidence of a Courtesan
What if confidence and sensuality weren’t about becoming someone new, but remembering who you already are? Embracing your inner courtesan is about owning your power, pleasure, and presence—unapologetically. Ready to step into your sparkle?
17 Feb 2025
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
How to Feel Sexy When You Don’t Feel Like Yourself (and You’re a Sex Coach)
Even sex coaches have days when feeling sexy seems impossible. But sexy isn’t a permanent state—it’s a practice. Here’s how I reconnect with my sensual side, one step at a time.
29 Jan 2025
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
How Boudoir Photography can help you Reclaim Confidence, Body Positivity, and Empowerment
Feeling disconnected from your confidence or sensuality? Discover how a boudoir photography experience helped me reconnect—and why it could do the same for you!
31 Dec 2024
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
Leopard Print Is My Power Symbol - and Could Be Yours Too
Leopard print: a fashion choice or a declaration? From family frowns to ‘fuck me pumps,’ I uncovered how this bold pattern challenged everything I’d learned about confidence, femininity, and sexuality. Ready to rethink your wardrobe ...and yourself?
18 Dec 2024
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
Voices Between the Sheets
Introducing my guest blog series—a space for real stories, experiences and opinions about sexuality, empowerment, and pleasure. Some names will be shared, others kept anonymous. Who knows, maybe one will even be mine. Ready to share your story?
11 Oct 2024
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
Menopause with Confidence and Sass
I am a huge advocate for being honest about how you feel and being vocal about you like or don’t like in your sexy time. But menopause can throw a great big-arsed spanner into all of that because it changes a great deal of things in a woman’s body, not least because sometimes what you like actually changes and you might find yourself not really *knowing* what you like anymore.
10 Feb 2024
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
Can your alter ego help with your sex life?
Same you, but just sexier, bolder, more confident, more daring? Years ago I was a very respectable bank manager in our fine City of London - I was pretty well-to-do and looked *fantastic* in a suit and heels. Just sayin’
18 Jan 2024
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
Yellow wellies, leeks and a penguin; a Business on a Beanbag podcast
Let me tell you about the absolute blast I had recently when I was invited to be a guest on the Business on a Beanbag podcast.
7 Dec 2023
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
I'm in Social Media Jail
I'm a sex coach & sex educator, I don’t censor myself. Wrong. I actually have to and it goes against every grain because this is what happens when you get booted into Insta Jail...
17 Oct 2023
Personal · Body Parts
Some frosty behaviour could raise your libido
I’m sure I don’t have to be another person to tell you about the health benefits of a cold water plunge BUT what I can do is tell you what’s going on for me since I started a few months ago.
23 Sept 2023
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
The wetter the better
I'm a certified sex coach, anatomy geek, and sexually active perimenopausal woman, so was I upset when I started to notice changes in my own body? Fuck yes!
21 Sept 2023
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
Flirting With Poly - Part 2
I’m a sexology geek and have spent a lot of time reading super interesting studies on the subject of non-monogamy.
12 Apr 2023
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
Flirting with Poly - Part 1
Some people have been with the same partner since school, but what about the people who have had multiple partners? But do you have anyone in your circle who has **multiple** partners? On purpose? And so does their significant other?!
15 Mar 2023
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
Top tips if you're new to group sex
Post-lockdown and with the higher level of media coverage nowadays, more and more, people are waking up to the idea that there might be sexual pleasure outside the world of monogamous relationships.
15 Feb 2023
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
Sex and Yoga
Are you curious about the link between yoga and sex? Come on in and discover...
22 Jun 2022
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