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Coaching and Sexology
Know Your No's: Why You're Not Obliged to Keep Your Partner Sexually Satisfied
Do you have to keep your partner sexually satisfied? Duty sex is quietly killing your desire - and they can tell. Here's why obligation is the enemy of pleasure, and what the courtesan knew that we forgot: know your No's, and your Yes's get sexier.
4 August 2026 · Read more
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
"You've Changed" - Why Women in Midlife Feel Different (and Why That's Normal)
Feeling different in midlife? You're not weird or broken. Here's what menopause, mental load and pleasure shifts are really doing - and why it's okay.
11 Jun 2026
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
Why I'm Building The Courtesan Collective - a Sensual Sisterhood for Tired, Brilliant Women
We're tired. We're done waiting for our pleasure. Why I'm building The Courtesan Collective.
30 Apr 2026
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
Why Your Sex Life Feels Empty (Even If You’re Having Sex)
You’re having sex. Tick. But it feels a bit… meh. If it’s starting to feel like something to get through rather than enjoy, you’re not alone. Here’s why it happens - and how to feel present, connected, and turned on again.
16 Apr 2026
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
Why Unsolicited Dick Pics Aren’t Just Annoying - And What They’re Really Doing to Women
I was sent an unsolicited dick pic at 5:33am. What followed wasn’t just anger, it was a flood of stories from women who’ve quietly shut down. This isn’t about offence. It’s about safety, consent, and why so many women disconnect from pleasure.
2 Apr 2026
Coaching and Sexology · Body Parts
It’s Hers, Not Yours: When Solo Pleasure Stops Feeling Like Your Own
Your pleasure is yours… right? So why do some women stop masturbating when their solo time turns into someone else’s fantasy or interrogation? Let’s talk about sexual autonomy, curiosity, and why pleasure sometimes needs privacy.
19 Mar 2026
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
The Surprising Consent Lesson I Learned at a Sex Party
A surprising moment at a sex party taught me something important about sexual confidence, consent, and boundaries. Because true empowerment isn’t about always getting what you want - it’s about respecting when someone says no.
5 Mar 2026
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
Look up! How your posture can affect improve your confidence
Stuck under grey skies and feeling glum? It might not just be the weather. In this playful, thought-provoking read, I share how posture shapes not only your mood and confidence but also your pleasure.
27 Oct 2025
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
Beyond Pink Ribbons; "I just wanted to fucking live!!"
Within an hour of arriving, a woman said to me, “I just wanted to fucking live.” This is about the power of honesty, the beauty of connection, and the quiet, fierce act of learning to love your body again — scars and all.
13 Oct 2025
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
To teenage boys. And girls. And maybe you, too.
How to talk to teenagers about condoms without the awkwardness: a real letter on sex, confidence, and respect for boys, girls. And maybe you too.
25 Sept 2025
Coaching and Sexology · Guest Blog
Periods, Partners, and Permission
Periods, partners & pleasure: why open conversations about bleeding matter in intimacy. Sexology, history & stigma-busting with The Period Princess in Voices Between the Sheets.
11 Sept 2025
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
A Libido Dry Spell? Here’s How to Reignite Your Desire Naturally
Libido feeling drier than a camel’s playground? Don’t panic. Here’s how a little time apart, solo pleasure, and a few sparkly passions can reignite desire.
8 Apr 2025
Coaching and Sexology · Holistic
How to Talk Dirty Without Feeling Like a Muppet
Feel like a muppet when you try to talk dirty? You’re not alone. Here’s how to find your voice, boost confidence, and turn awkward into arousing—with tips that actually work for real women in real relationships.
17 Mar 2025
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
Reclaim Your Sensuality: How to Channel the Confidence of a Courtesan
What if confidence and sensuality weren’t about becoming someone new, but remembering who you already are? Embracing your inner courtesan is about owning your power, pleasure, and presence—unapologetically. Ready to step into your sparkle?
17 Feb 2025
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
How to Feel Sexy When You Don’t Feel Like Yourself (and You’re a Sex Coach)
Even sex coaches have days when feeling sexy seems impossible. But sexy isn’t a permanent state—it’s a practice. Here’s how I reconnect with my sensual side, one step at a time.
29 Jan 2025
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
How Boudoir Photography can help you Reclaim Confidence, Body Positivity, and Empowerment
Feeling disconnected from your confidence or sensuality? Discover how a boudoir photography experience helped me reconnect—and why it could do the same for you!
31 Dec 2024
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
Leopard Print Is My Power Symbol - and Could Be Yours Too
Leopard print: a fashion choice or a declaration? From family frowns to ‘fuck me pumps,’ I uncovered how this bold pattern challenged everything I’d learned about confidence, femininity, and sexuality. Ready to rethink your wardrobe ...and yourself?
18 Dec 2024
Coaching and Sexology · Guest Blog
Igniting the Spark: The Power of Risk in the Lifestyle
What if reigniting your passion only required one bold step? In a world of comfort and routine, excitement lies in risk. Enjoy this guest blog and discover how stepping into the lifestyle could be the key to rediscovering the spark you’ve lost.
18 Oct 2024
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
Voices Between the Sheets
Introducing my guest blog series—a space for real stories, experiences and opinions about sexuality, empowerment, and pleasure. Some names will be shared, others kept anonymous. Who knows, maybe one will even be mine. Ready to share your story?
11 Oct 2024
Coaching and Sexology · Kink and Non-Vanilla
Let’s talk about stealthing
This is a topic not so often spoken about - it is emotive and shame-inducing, sometimes with very dire physical and emotional consequences.
26 Sept 2024
Coaching and Sexology
Sex Appraisal
Ever felt like you’re ready for a new adventure but feel like you’re stuck on repeat? It might just be time for a sex appraisal. Yes, you heard me right – it’s like an annual performance review but way more fun and with fewer PowerPoint slides.
2 Aug 2024
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
Menopause with Confidence and Sass
I am a huge advocate for being honest about how you feel and being vocal about you like or don’t like in your sexy time. But menopause can throw a great big-arsed spanner into all of that because it changes a great deal of things in a woman’s body, not least because sometimes what you like actually changes and you might find yourself not really *knowing* what you like anymore.
10 Feb 2024
Coaching and Sexology
It's none of your business!
In my years of studying and practicing sexology, I know A LOT of people who find it difficult to talk about sex because they feel they'll be judged or shamed. And that kinda stinkin’ thinkin’ can keeps you from having the pleasure that you deserve.
31 Jan 2024
Coaching and Sexology
Low Libido? Give Her An Extra One In Bed
Now, THIS I have to share because it's such a no-brainer, epiphany moment and can help you really invest in your relationship with a woman with as little as 60 minutes of effort.
23 Jan 2024
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
Can your alter ego help with your sex life?
Same you, but just sexier, bolder, more confident, more daring? Years ago I was a very respectable bank manager in our fine City of London - I was pretty well-to-do and looked *fantastic* in a suit and heels. Just sayin’
18 Jan 2024
Coaching and Sexology · Body Parts
The Ripple Effect of Pleasure; It's not all about you!
The individuals I often work with are generally in relationships, and come to me to make the twosome tangos with their husbands, wives and all in-between better. But I'm not just here to talk about which bits to rub and which parts to nibble.
13 Dec 2023
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
Yellow wellies, leeks and a penguin; a Business on a Beanbag podcast
Let me tell you about the absolute blast I had recently when I was invited to be a guest on the Business on a Beanbag podcast.
7 Dec 2023
Coaching and Sexology · Body Parts
Talk about it!
Do you talk about Doing the Doodah?
23 Oct 2023
Coaching and Sexology · Body Parts
Know your bits
Knowledge is power, right? Your body is amazing So let’s talk about what you keep under your swimming cossie.
19 Oct 2023
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
I'm in Social Media Jail
I'm a sex coach & sex educator, I don’t censor myself. Wrong. I actually have to and it goes against every grain because this is what happens when you get booted into Insta Jail...
17 Oct 2023
Coaching and Sexology
Mindful movement for sex
Yoga and mindful movement is great for so many things not just for the function of your body and for your health. What I'm talking about is getting right into your body for mindful practice when you're having sex
5 Oct 2023
Coaching and Sexology
EdgeRush: The Thrill of Tease and Release 🎢
Let’s dive into a topic that's sure to tickle your fancy – edging, the sexiest game of brinkmanship you'll ever play in the bedroom. Imagine being on a roller coaster… you can see you’re approaching the top… you know it’s going to feel fantastic.. it’s just a breath away… almost at the edge of ecstasy… ### And then you back off
28 Sept 2023
Personal · Body Parts
Some frosty behaviour could raise your libido
I’m sure I don’t have to be another person to tell you about the health benefits of a cold water plunge BUT what I can do is tell you what’s going on for me since I started a few months ago.
23 Sept 2023
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
The wetter the better
I'm a certified sex coach, anatomy geek, and sexually active perimenopausal woman, so was I upset when I started to notice changes in my own body? Fuck yes!
21 Sept 2023
Coaching and Sexology · Holistic
Take a breath, babe
Sometimes you can be in your head and overthink even the simplest of things and before you know it, your orgasm has packed up it's bag and left town. Or, it jumped centre stage into the party leaving the innocent bystanders to clean up the mess and wonder when their own orgasm gets to come out to play.
14 Sept 2023
Coaching and Sexology · Kink and Non-Vanilla
You don't have to be a good girl all the time!
You simply cannot wear a shiny halo all of the time. Even if you do have a really, really sparkly fucking halo there's another side to it.
7 Sept 2023
Coaching and Sexology · Holistic
Embracing Healthy Masculinity: A Whole-Person Approach to Sex Coaching
Today we're diving into a world where I, the cheerleader for all things happiness, pleasure, and empowerment, tell you that team up with an unexpected bunch: the dudes!
18 Aug 2023
Coaching and Sexology · Holistic
Say what you want!
It’s so important to say what you want. But there’s so much noise that if you whisper your precious desires, there’s a danger it’ll get swept away in the current of the other voices.
20 Jul 2023
Coaching and Sexology
Put It On to Take It Off
Are you someone who struggles to initiate intimate moments with your partner even if you do feel horny and ready for it? I gotcha, babe
12 Jul 2023
Coaching and Sexology · Holistic
Do you want to be a better lover?
Clients who work with me are seekers of pleasure. For themselves and for the people they do-the-do with. If you're yearning for a deeper understanding of sex or seeking to enhance your orgasmic experiences, you're in the right place.
28 Jun 2023
Coaching and Sexology · Holistic
Flip the triggers on their arse, find The Glimmers
I was talking with someone who mentioned feelings of overwhelm. The conversation wasn't specifically about sex, but you know what? As an experienced yoga teacher and a certified sex coach, I have a knack of being able to draw things full circle.
14 Jun 2023
Coaching and Sexology · Body Parts
Helpful things to know about STI's
I promise you that despite what you see in films, porn videos, or even your best friend's social media account, at some point in everyone’s life, we all hit bumps in the road in regard to our desire, performance, or even sexual health.
17 May 2023
Coaching and Sexology · Holistic
What if you don't want to masturbate??
The month of May has fast become recognised as Masturbation May a time to say fuck it, crack your knuckles, and grab the vibe out of the drawer. But what if you don't want to?
10 May 2023
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
Flirting With Poly - Part 2
I’m a sexology geek and have spent a lot of time reading super interesting studies on the subject of non-monogamy.
12 Apr 2023
Coaching and Sexology · Body Parts
My poor body image is stopping me from having orgasms
It’s hardly a secret that there is increasing pressure to look a certain way and meet certain beauty standards, but did you know that this pressure is having a huge impact on our sex lives?
29 Mar 2023
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
Flirting with Poly - Part 1
Some people have been with the same partner since school, but what about the people who have had multiple partners? But do you have anyone in your circle who has **multiple** partners? On purpose? And so does their significant other?!
15 Mar 2023
Coaching and Sexology · Holistic
Why regular sex check-in are a great idea
Good sex is more than just physical pleasure. It’s an intimate and emotional experience, and communication is key to making it as pleasurable as possible.
7 Mar 2023
Coaching and Sexology · Holistic
How can I stop being so distracted during sex?
Where are you?? You’re elsewhere, thinking about things other than what you're doing in bed...
1 Mar 2023
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
Top tips if you're new to group sex
Post-lockdown and with the higher level of media coverage nowadays, more and more, people are waking up to the idea that there might be sexual pleasure outside the world of monogamous relationships.
15 Feb 2023
Coaching and Sexology · Kink and Non-Vanilla
Top 5 Sex Club Tips for Nervous Newbies
There are all sorts of discussions being held around the topic of different relationship dynamics and non-monogamy these days - I will cover some of them right here on this blog very soon. What we have always known is that people in long-term committed relationships sometimes stray or need something else sexually. Obviously, some of these situations can cause heartbreak.
10 Jan 2023
Body Parts · Holistic
Ladies, do you notice the sensations of sexual arousal?
Do you really *hear* the tingle of your sexual arousal or is it simply too faint to notice? Pull up your chair for a few minutes, grab a cuppa and I'll tell you a secret; for a long time, I *didn't* hear it. I simply wasn't able. And so I thought I had a problem with my libido.
7 Jul 2022
Coaching and Sexology · Personal
Sex and Yoga
Are you curious about the link between yoga and sex? Come on in and discover...
22 Jun 2022
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