Put It On to Take It Off

Are you someone who struggles to initiate intimate moments with your partner even if you do feel horny and ready for it?

I gotcha, babe

As a sex coach, I'm here to introduce you to a little secret that can spice up your love life while adding a touch of humour, playfulness, and even a seductive ritual: lingerie or props.

Yes, you heard me right!

By putting on something sexy or incorporating fun accessories, you can non-verbally communicate your desires to your partner, igniting the flames of passion in your relationship.

Find something that makes you feel sexy - that might be an item of lingerie, a red pair of socks, a favourite tie - and only get that out when you are actually wanting to have sex. Of course, you will need to communicate this with your partner -if they don't know what the game is, how will they know you're playing??

It doesn't need to be an item of clothing, though, you could use something else to signal your intentions non-verbally. Perhaps a scented candle or a coat hanger on the door handle to greet your lover when they come home.

So, let's dive in and explore the incredible benefits of using these tools to express your interest!

Non-Verbal Seduction

I get it, sometimes it can be really difficult to put our desires into words, especially if we haven't ever done that before. Words can fail us when it comes to initiating intimacy. Have you ever been there?

Instead of struggling to find the right words or feeling shy, let your item of choice do the talking! Wearing a seductive ensemble can convey your intentions loud and clear, making it nearly impossible for your partner to miss the signal. It's like putting up a neon sign that says, "I'm in the mood for some fun!" And trust me, the power of non-verbal seduction is undeniable.

Boosting Confidence

If we're talking lingerie, it isn't just about looking good; it's about feeling fantastic in your own skin. When you slip into a beautiful set or put on that sultry teddy, you instantly experience a confidence boost. Confidence is incredibly attractive and can be a major turn-on for your partner as well. So, embrace your body, celebrate your curves, and let your inner sex goddess shine through!

The same can happen when you wear a crisp shirt or some nice shoes.

Igniting Fantasy and Imagination

If you've communicated it well beforehand, imagine the excitement your partner might feel when they walk up the stairs and see the red scarf tied to the door handle! Of when you surprise them by slipping into your sexy outfit. It really is ok to put something on just to take it off.

Consider when you buy a birthday gift - the wrapping, the bows, the ribbon all add to the excitement and anticipation of what might be inside!! Stimulating your partner's imagination by introducing a touch of excitement or even role play can create the opportunity for deeper connection and shared intimacy - and probably a good number of private jokes or flirty texts!

Adding Fun and Humor

Sex can be fun and should be fun!

Using lingerie and props really doesn't have to be a serious affair. It's an invitation to play, laugh, and enjoy each other's company. Think of it as an opportunity to indulge in a little bit of silliness and light-heartedness. Whether you end up in a fit of giggles or engage in playful teasing, the experience will create fond memories and strengthen your bond.

Variety and Spontaneity

If we're not careful, over-using the same tricks and techniques can quickly dry up the excitement in any relationship. By introducing props, you can inject a much-needed dose of variety and spontaneity into your love life. Surprise your partner with different styles, colors, or themes. Go wild and explore new territories together! The element of surprise will keep things fresh and create anticipation for future encounters.

If you're not normally the saucy starter, it can also give you a feeling of sexy empowerment and confidence and that can feel HOT!

Flying solo?

All of this is still relevant for you, my friend!!

Treat yourself to these little seduction rituals - it all works, babe!

Mixing things up and initiating sex in a different way can be a game-changer for those who struggle to initiate or verbally express their desires. It's a playful and exciting way to indicate your interest while adding a dash of humor to your relationship. Remember, the goal is to have fun, embrace your confidence, and explore new realms of passion together. So, put it on to take it off and watch as your love life blossoms into a thrilling adventure!

Do remember - communication is key in any relationship.

Whilst lingerie and props can enhance intimacy, it's essential to ensure that both partners are comfortable and enthusiastic about using them. Consent trumps everything so always prioritise that for a pleasurable experience for both parties.

I love that you're here reading this blog post about sex because it's really important to keep yourself well-informed. I offer re-education classes - online and in-person in my hometown of Nottingham, UK. Keep watching this space and I will drop a link into this blog post with some more details, or you can subscribe to receive my email newsletters which is where all the hot stuff goes first. I like to send a Foxy Friday email to remind you to tap into your saucy - some have told me I give good email 🤭

with pleasure,

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