Same you, but just sexier, bolder, more confident, more daring?

Years ago I was a very respectable bank manager in our fine City of London - I was pretty well-to-do and looked fantastic in a suit and heels. Just sayin’

I had quite a lot of promotions to get where I was from data entry - I love an entry.

But just before I up-levelled I decided that to my interview, I would wear my Tina Hat.

Tina had been my manager and ended up being a very dear friend and actually one of my bridesmaids. She was sassy, extremely professional, she took no crap from anyone, she was confident and fun.

So I decided on the day of my interview to wear my Tina Hat.

My interview went brilliantly, I got the job. And I continued to get the jobs…..

Now my scene is set - for those of us colourful enough to remember Worzel Gummidge, I decided I liked this technique of embodying the qualities that I admired.

Don’t get me wrong, I wasn’t trying to change myself - not one little bit. Nu-uh.

🍄 I was grabbing the Mario mushroom to supercharge the qualities that were already there and part of who I am.

This is a technique that I use often with clients in my sex coaching practice. And believe me, it works for them!

For years, I have explored empowered femininity in its different guises

💋 the softness and fluidity with my yoga

💋 the intuition, strength, and sisterhood with my Women’s Circle (btw, this will be returning soon)

💋 the raw, gritty dark feminine with philosophy and just fucking life

💋 the bold, confident sassiness of female sex

I talk so often about body image and body confidence and for years have enjoyed watching burlesque performances in my hometown of Nottingham.

In 2018, I leaned into my friend and told her

“I’m going to be on that stage one day”

A few months later, she gave me black and gold sequinned nipple tassels for Christmas.

When the bells were chiming to ring in 2020, having had an inexplicably hard time in my personal life, I decided 'the time is now' - I would find a private teacher and learn to burlesque dance.

And then COVID lockdown..... 🖕🏼

⏩ ⏩ ⏩Fast forward to January 2023 and I finally began dancing under the tutelage and mentorship of Ruby d’Woo and her Haus of Ruby’s Rebels.

It has become a weekly non-negotiable for me,

I do not miss a class

The body confidence in the room is INSANE, with women of all body shapes, sizes and life stages. Every single week, I find myself forgetting all else and completely in flow - if you also have a busy brain, you’ll know how rare that is!

💫 These sessions literally have my body buzzing with an electrical charge.

And so I introduce to you my alter ego,

Sasha le Swank

who masters the art of sensuality, sass, and desire, with crafted performances that will tantalize and enthrall you. She seamlessly blends empowerment, sexuality, shadow femininity, and playful humor into her acts and her performances are a bewitching fusion of sultry motions, graceful choreography, and mischievous charisma.

She’s gone in balls-deep and is readying for her debut performance - a solo - in Nottingham on 9th February 2024. Perhaps you’ll be lucky enough to follow her journey.

Might this post inspire YOU to wear a different hat to craft an alter ego who embodies and amplifies everything you love about yourself?

with pleasure,

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